Opinions, views and ideas that I have. This is an outlet for me to encourage, inform and share life experiences, happenings and going ons in and around my world and perhaps yours. Hopefully you and I will come across common ground and help each other through laughter and information.
Friday, December 30, 2011
2011 "Note to Self"
Thursday, December 29, 2011
Be Careful Little Mouth What You Say!
I learned this lesson when I was thirteen I spoke some mean words to my mother and after I came to my senses, I apologized profusly. She replied " Uh huh, but the thing about that is, that's how you felt at the time". Out of the heart the mouth will speak. (selah) From that day forward I have been mindful of what I say and how I say it, for once spoken they can not be retrieved.
In the heat of anger sometimes you say things you ordinarily would not say; even out of hurt you say things to ensure the recipient feels the pain you are feeling. As time passes you are back in your happy place and your words are still lingering in the mind of the person you spoke them to, in the mind of the person they rehearsed them to and in the mind of the people who may have heard you. Those hurt filled, painful words are still lingering out there and you have moved on. Then you wonder why that person doesn't want to talk to you. SMH
End the year reconciling relationships you have damaged with your words. Embrace 2012 being a better your, using tact and being mindful of what you say before you say it. May you have a happy and prosperous New Year!
Thursday, December 15, 2011
USEFUL Information: Work at Home Scams You Should Avoid
I know quite a bit of people that are looking for work at home type jobs and all I can say is BE CAREFUL! Do your research. Forbes has this great article that gives you at least 16 scams to avoid. If you look at the list and then use some common sense, no matter the variation of the scam if it falls into one of the ones listed, you may be able to weed out the legitimate work at home positions from the scammers and perhaps help a friend out by alerting them on what to look for. I hope this helps you.
All he needed to get started: a one-time fee of $32,450. The trap was set.
Colucci (who says he doesn’t know how BankCard got his name and phone number) covered the bill with two credit cards---one from Chase Bank, the other from Bank of America. Weeks went by, no word from BankCard. Colucci peppered the company with calls. Crickets. After two months, Colucci knew he had been robbed. Chase Bank initially refunded Colucci’s $9,250, but later rescinded; Bank of America refused to reimburse the $23,200 Colucci had put on its card.
In January 2010 Colucci sued BankCard Empire (for negligence and fraud), as well as Chase Bank and Bank of America (for violating the Truth in Lending Act) in federal district court in New Jersey. Three months later the United States Postal Inspector, assisted by the Tempe, Ariz. police, shut down BankCard. Colucci hasn’t seen a dime. All charges, save for the one citing negligence, have been thrown out; the suit is still pending. As for the fraud-protection policies offered by the banks, they tend only to protect card holders from unauthorized use of their cards---not from transactions willingly performed with a crook disguised as a legitimate operation. “I feel that the banks ripped me off as much as the scammer did,” says Colucci, who lives on Social Security and is now looking for a job. A Chase representative declined to comment; Bank of America did not respond to multiple calls for comment.
Colucci has plenty of unsuspecting company in this tight economy. In 2010 the Federal Trade Commission received 8,192 complaints involving work-at-home-business opportunities, flat with the previous year. The FTC estimates that only one in every 55 of these gigs is legitimate.
Whether it involves stuffing envelopes, processing medical insurance claims or assembling toys, most victims never get paid for their work or ever recoup their startup fees. As for Colucci, not only is he out his thirty-two grand, he also has legal bills to pay. “There is no ability to recover enhanced damages or attorney’s fees in a claim against a credit card company when [you] are defrauded on a work-at-home scam,” says Billy Pinilis, Colucci’s attorney. “This usually makes it impossible for a victim to even get counsel because it makes hiring a lawyer economically infeasible. People are entering into transactions believing that they are protected from fraud, when they are not.”
You might think the chance to make easy money in pajamas would get anyone's hackles up. So how do these schemes endure? Most victims---typically senior citizens, stay-at-home mothers and people with low incomes---are too embarrassed to file a complaint; others get so frustrated they just walk away altogether.
Smell a scam? Vet the offer with your local Better Business Bureau, which maintains a directory of local businesses. Beware: Just because the company's name is listed in the directory doesn't mean it’s a legitimate operation. These businesses change names all the time, masking their dirty track records.
Victims should contact their local or state consumer affairs agency, their state attorney general's office, the advertising manager of the publication that ran the business's employment ads and, if they received anything from the business by mail, the U.S. Postal Inspection Service.
To learn more about work-at-home schemes, also check out the Federal Trade Commission's business-opportunities website and the National Fraud Information Center, run by the National Consumers League.
In the meantime, here are a few nasty work-at-home schemes we’ve identified over the last few years.
E-Commerce Con
Making a few extra bucks doesn’t sound any easier than this: Simply pay an up-front, one-time fee (a few thousand dollars, perhaps) to have someone build and host a functioning website featuring various household goods for sale, from toothpaste to toilet paper; each time someone buys an item, you collect a slice of the transaction. All you need to do is encourage people to shop there—the rest (stocking inventory, shipping the product) is handled for you. Or, more likely, nothing is handled, and the thief offering you the opportunity is long gone with your earnest money before you’ve hocked one tube of Crest.
Letter From Nigeria
Also called the 419 scam (referring to the article of the Nigerian Criminal Code dealing with fraud), this bait-and-switch has recently gained a lot of attention. The ruse takes many forms. One common flavor: An email arrives from a man claiming to be a senior civil servant of Nigeria (or another African country), who writes that he is looking for a reputable foreigner with whom he can deposit up to $60 million for safe-keeping while he deals with some dangerous political strife. In return for providing safe haven in your bank account, the thief promises to give you 30% of the money once—as one email put it—“documentations are concluded over here.” The emails may even come with a (forged) seal of the Nigerian government, just for good measure. Of course, you will be required to cough up a deposit so that you have a stake in the business venture. When your Nigerian friend later claims something has gone awry, he will ask for additional funds to tide him over---never mind that he supposedly has millions of dollars to start with. (Another non-work-at-home twist: The email may claim that you are eligible to receive a hefty inheritance from a wealthy and recently deceased diplomat or businessman. Yet another: You might be promised a handsome fee for distributing a giant stash among various charities. Yes, confirms the Federal Trade Commission: People do fall for this.
Dial-A-Crook
Lonely hearts aren’t the only fans of 1-900 numbers. Scammers use them to push bogus work-at-home gigs: Just call the 1-900 number for “more information.” While you wait on hold, you’ll rack up usurious charges, which the crook splits with the unwitting phone company. Foil the scam and, like a game of Whack-a-Mole, the bad guy simply pops up under a different name, with a different number.
Driver Wanted
This scam, recently advertised on Craigslist, has many variations. In one case, a man asks you to chauffer his wife, who is visiting your area. Easy enough, though the payment terms are a tad convoluted. You are told that you will receive a check (or “money gram”) for, say, $2,500 in the mail. You will deposit the check, then immediately pull out the cash--- $700 to cover your fee and any ancillary expenses, and the rest to be mailed back to the scammer. Your bank probably won’t know for a day or two that you have deposited a fake check.
Check Cashing
Also called "money-mule" schemes. The gist: Scammers recruit U.S. agents--dubbed "financial managers" or "sales managers"--to cash counterfeit checks (or deposit stolen funds), for a small commission, and then wire that money abroad, often to the scammers themselves. By the time the bank realizes the checks are bogus (two to five days later), the money's been sent and the unsuspecting intermediary is left holding the bag.
Medical Billing
Most of these work-from-home schemes promise up to thousands of dollars per week for processing insurance claims for doctors who are too busy to deal with the paperwork themselves. You'll receive startup marketing materials, software, a training session and a "lead" list of local doctors--all for a fee, of course. Too bad that software costs a lot less at Best Buy, your training sessions are postponed indefinitely, your leads are vapor and no one wants your service.
Mystery Shopping
In this scam, an official-sounding entity, such as the Mystery Shopping Club of America, promises assignments to aspiring marketing researchers. How to get paid? Just make anonymous purchases at various stores and evaluate your experience--right after you pay a "registration fee" to look or apply for assignments in its database. Legitimate offers won't require a fee or "certification" to search for companies requesting mystery shoppers. Typical prey: college students.
Pre-Screened List of Jobs
This might be the most heartless one of all. Consumers pay a fee to register with the business to access a pre-screened list of "legitimate" work-at-home job listings. The scammer's ads pop up in the course of a "scam free jobs at home" online search, and they promise a refund to those who fail to land a job. After sending in payment, victims are summarily locked out of their accounts and never see a single job opportunity.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
The Organized Bride
ORGANIZATION. This just means your processes by which you plan are effective and organized. They make sense and they flow.
Many Brides start out very enthusiastic about planning their wedding, only to be tired, stressed and miserable on their wedding day. It shouldn't be that way. TIP: Consult with an Event PLANNER. Pay the extra to get the advice you need to plan a successul and stress free event. Don't sweat the small stuff. If you are NOT a good PLANNER, then Hire One.
Monday, November 21, 2011
Are You Sleeping on Your Dreams?
Today take the time to evaluate the following:
1. Yourself. Are you holding you back? Have you let some things slip? Are you making excuses? Are you lazy? Are you a time waster? Have you lost focused?
2. Your Support Team. Do you have the right people around you? Are the people you surround yourself with encouraging or discouraging? Do you take heed to the advice or wisdom they share with you or do you make excuses?
Really ask yourself those questions and be truthful. By doing so, you will learn more about yourself. You will be able to recognize your strengths and weaknesses in some areas and you will be able to move forward towards success.
Make a quality decision to be successful today. Work on your goals everyday. Start TODAY.
Let's GO!!
Saturday, November 19, 2011
Do You Know Why the Wedding Ring is Worn on the Fourth Finger?
Friday, November 18, 2011
Think About This
Find something to be thankful for. Make a conscious decision not to complain today. Go out of your way to help someone...receive help from someone if you are very prideful...Make a positive change today. Be Nice and Positive Today.
Sometimes a kind word to someone or just genuinely listening to someone as they express themselves can make a difference in someones life. Simple etiquette is not dead, people appreciate it...simple gestures such as a smile; a simple greeting, "How are you today". (Now when greeting someone don't ask if you really are not concerned, instead just say "Hello...Good Afternoon...etc)...I recently helped an elderly woman carry something to her vehicle and I said..."Travel safely"...she replied, "You too"...I walked away thinking how insincere...I am not travelling anywhere....lol
It's the small things that we say or do that makes a difference in how your sincerity is received. Make a conscious decision to be nice and considerate to someone...use your manners and be cordial.
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Facebook Gamers--EXTREME
If you have a facebook account you are familiar with some of the popular games available...FARMVILLE....CITYVILLE.....YOVILLE...and CAFE WORLD to name a few.
I personally like Farmville and Cityville. (Don't judge me) I know some of you reading this totally dispise those games and feel like those are time waters...but anywho...in everything we do there must be balance.
The person in this article went way to far. To much work and no play OR playing to much with little work or accomplishments is not a balanced life.
Live....Love...Have fun
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Closed Mouths Don't Get Fed.... and They Don't Get Help Either...
I've heard the saying "Closed mouths don't get fed". That's true, but I thought about it and added "Closed mouths don't get help either"....think about it ..how can people help you if you never ask for it. So many times we have heard, "I am not a mind reader", but yet when we are in a bind and we become to afraid to ask for help, that's exactly when we want people to do, read our minds. Although we may not be able to read minds, let's listen closely to one another. Say an encouraging word to those you come in contact with. You never know what kind word can change someone's mindset.
TIP: If you need help but you are not sure who to go to, call your Pastor, someone close to you, but reach out and receive the help. Ask for help.
Live life expecting the Best! Remember there's no storm that lasts forever...
Thursday, May 26, 2011
She's Always there!
As a young teenager I remember arguing with my mom and feeling like she didn't understand me or my situation. Then days later frantically going to her for her advice and help over something totally unrelated to our previous tiff. smh...It wasn't' until I became an adult with children of my own and realized that she has always been there. Whether I acknowledged her or not, whether I wanted her to be or not, she has always been there; whether I felt like she wasn't there, she was. What a God like characteristic to have!
Can others say that about you? Are you genuinely a helpful and caring person? Are you always there? Do you display that characteristic? You may not have the money that person needs, but the advice you give could be more valuable; You may not be able to physically be there, but the time you invested talking to them on the phone could be more valuable. You rearranging your schedule/agenda to show support to someone could be more valuable then just sending a gift and/or just sending a gift and kind words, just because could make all the difference in the world. (NOTE: Not everyone have hidden agendas, there are really some good Samaritans out there.)
Let's help our fellow sister and brother live successful lives by supporting, inspiring, sharring, loving, giving, listening and adhering to biblical principals, such as
1. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" If you can't stand for people to yell and disrepect you then don't you do it...you don't like when people display a nasty attitude, then don't you do it; you don't like when people spread untruths(or truths) about you then don't you do it; you don't like messy people, then don't be a messy person. Such a simple principle.
2. If you don't have nothing nice to say, then keep quiet, especially when it may bring hurt, humiliation and scarring to someone. Sometimes your slick words, or quick wit is harmful to others, who may display a hard shell but are truly a softy. Choose your words wisely and carefully. Be quick to listen and slow to answer. Don't always shoot off at the mouth, the first thing that pops into your head...sometimes it just ain't cute.
Live Love Respect and have fun doing it.
Even though I used my mother...I am not just limiting this to mothers, there are fathers, husands, uncles, aunts, grandparents, teachers and many many others who could play an important role in your support system, my question to you is do you recognize who they are or do you totally disregard the fact that they are a constant in your life and they are ALWAYS THERE?
Monday, May 2, 2011
Don't Let the Beauty Fool You!
Back Lawn of Boone Hall |
Saturday, April 30, 2011
USEFUL Information: The Difference Between "Save the Dates" "Invitations" and "Announcements"
SAVE THE DATES
Save the date cards are to notify the person(s) of the date of the envent, if they live far away they can save up to come or they can arrange travel, or time off work.You send these out to the people you definitely want to attend your event. FYI, I think a save the date definitely ensures an invite to the event,think about it, you just received a save the date, got the the time off and booked your flight and then got no invite that would just be wrong!!
It seems as if most of us tend to use announcement products as invites.
This will help you plan your event. It does help immensely to know how many people will be in attendance.
This is an example of an Invitation. The wording is key |
So why would you need an announcement? This correspondence does not commonly require a response from the receiver. This is the major difference between invitations and announcements. You want others to know about your special event but you are not having a ceremony that they can attend or there's not enough space or finance to accommodate everyone.
Announcements are commonly reserved for graduations and births but some choose to use them for weddings as well. This is especially true if the wedding ceremony is very small, destination weddings and the couple can’t invite everyone that they want.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
The Prince Experience - Videos
Delirious
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Monday, March 28, 2011
Is YOUR Mindset Holding You Back?
You can not be lazy. If you are not willing to work your vision, please believe no one else is going do it for you. If you are the type of person that have grand ideas and goals, but you loose focus easily, my question to you is What is your purpose? Why do you want to do what you do? Who is it going to benefit? Can you do this for free and still produce a great product or service? What is your motivator? Time, Money, Status, Advancement of Humanity...etc...
I am an event planner/designer and I love what I do. If I never get a celebrity platform/millioniare status, guess what I a perfectly confident and pleased with what I am and have accomplished thus far. I am sure of my purpose. Money is wonderful and I do want to make lots of it, but my motivator is the passion that I have for my craft/gift. I know without a doubt that every project that I am a part of is going to be done in excellence, without stress and pressure and the people who part-take in the event will have a memorable time! I ensure that the team of people that I work with understand the importance of agreement. We all say the same thing we mind the same thing. By doing this the end product/service is that of excellence and a happy, stress free client.
Have I had opposition? Yes. My biggest opposition was my MINDSET. No one was telling me that I couldn't do it, quite the oppose I have a great support system. I was just afraid. What if I failed? What if I get rejected? WELL...my counter questions are What if you don't fail? What if you don't get rejected? I constantly said to MYSELF you can do this...it's great to have a support system but you have to be the main supporter. You must believe in yourself and the abilities that GOD have given you. I know I do.
Friday, March 25, 2011
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Supporter or Complainer
Complain Defined:
Synonyms
1. Complain, grumble, growl, whine are terms for expressing dissatisfaction or discomfort. To complain is to protest against or lament a wrong: to complain about high prices. To grumble is to utter ill-natured complaints half to oneself: to grumble about the service. Growl may express more anger than grumble : to growl in reply to a question. To whine is to complain in a meanspirited way, using a nasal tone: to whine like a coward, like a spoiled child.
IF you complain habitually you are a COMPLAINER!
Support Defined:
Make a decision to be a GOOD support to your family, friends, co-workers, and/or organization that you are a part of. Remember in any organization there is one visionary, and if you are not the visionary then your duty is to SUPPORT the vision! If you are constantly complaining about your organization, job, etc...maybe it's time for change. Life should be enjoyed and if you are complaining alot you are not enjoying life.
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Here's Your Sign!
A few weeks ago I went out of town. Anyone that knows me knows that I love shoes. While in the hotel room a commercial came on about a shoe warehouse. They advertised they were open on Sundays, which it was.
Sooooo off we go to the shoe warehouse. Got the address in my GPS ..I am good. I thought to myself we will be there in no time.Much to my dismay this is what I saw when I got there.
First of all why should I have to call? The commercial said you were open. Secondly WHO am I going to call there is NO PHONE NUMBER!. |
Sunday, March 20, 2011
Do You Accept Compliments?
How many times have you done that or have you even noticed? This past weekend I went to two events and at both I happen to sit by women who were considerably smaller in size then I and in both instances they complained about their non existent belly roll. (I am sighing and rolling my eyes). SERIOUSLY...if the "Belly Roll" disappears when you stand up...it AIN'T and belly roll...your stomach is just relaxed...lol
A belly roll, love handle, muffin top and any other cute name you can think up is referring to the abdomen that sticks out all the time: when you sit down, stand up, that rolls over the top of your pants/skirt/shorts, or that is noticeable in a thick polo shirt.
I want to challenge you. The next time someone compliments you, just say THANK YOU and leave it at that.
Friday, March 18, 2011
The House is On FIRE!!!! Kids Prank Mom
WHY did the mom send her CHILD to get RUFUS as she runs to safety? WHO DOES THIS?!
LOL!
Saturday, March 12, 2011
While I was Waiting.....
I ordered a new tire from Gerald's Tires, to replace the one that was damaged while driving on highway 78. (By the way, did you know that if your vehicle is damaged due to dibris you can file a damage claim and they will pay for it...fyi)
I decided to get there early ( they open at 8: 00 and I got there at 7:40) uuuuuhhhhmmmmmm... Why is there a FRIGGIN' LINE!! OMG.. It's 37° outside and now I got to stand outside in this line!
You would have thought they were selling the next latest and greatest Droid ( thought I was gone say I-phone..huh)...Once we get inside I thought these two older men were gone fight because one guy appeared to be cutting the line...smh...wow...this is crazy on its not even 9: 00am.... I hopye your day starts out better and warmer then mine.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
No More Limits
I am back! Been sooooo busy! I was listening to an inspirational song and one of the lines on the song was "the sky ain't the limit no mo, cuz the sky is way too low". I like that. It helped me realize that the sky IS a limit and I was created with unlimitless possibilities!
I watched the movie Conviction, which was based on a true story about siblings, a brother and sister. The sister became a lawyer to get her brother out of jail because she believed he was innocent. The most insightful incident was when she passed the bar and she requested the evidence, they told her the evidence had been destroyed. Initially she was distraught, but she would not accept that answer....she relentlessly pursued her goal which was to find DNA evidence to clear her brother. She went to the location where the files were supposedly destroyed. The clerk was so adamant that the evidence had been destroyed but that didn't detour her from asking the clerk too check again and because she wouldn't accept the answer they found the box of evidence that was "destroyed"!
All things are possible IF you believe! If you think you will succeed, you will.
Remember to surround yourself with people that will support and unite with you.