Friday, December 30, 2011

2011 "Note to Self"


As I was cleaning my desk and going through files and note pads I came across some good stuff.  When I hear or read something good or inspiring I often times make a "Note to Self" of it for reference.  So in times like this it often serves as a reminder.  Hopes this inspires you as it has inspired me.



1.  You'll never know who you are 'til you discover who you're not. We must be comfortable with accepting our flaws. How can we make changes in our lives if we are in tune with the way we feel about ourselves. You have to be honest with yourself.  The worst deceiver is one who chooses to deceive themselves.

2.  Your life is the life you choose to live. If your life is miserable, could it be because you are too lazy to change?  You must create the rality you want.  Nothing changes if NOTHING Changes. Too many people choose to be lazy and not change.

3.  Being poor is an economic condition that doesn't have to be permanent, but being broke is a disabling state of mind and spirit that affects all aspects of your life. If you are poor that's only a financial set back that can be changed.  Do not be poor in your mind, for if you do you will always be broke.

4.  In order to fix a problem you first have to be aware of it!

5.  You should always expect the things you accept. This applies to both people and situations. Meaning if you accept that somebody treats you or talks to you in a disrespectful way, then you should always expect them to keep doing it.  But if you nip that in the bud, they won't do it anymore because you will have established  your bottom line.

6.  You can often tell how successful you will be in life and your career based o n the five people you spend the in most time with.

7.  The worst boss is a blind boss who is unaware of the most important inner dealings of their business.

8.  When someone shows you who they are Belive them!

Thursday, December 29, 2011

Be Careful Little Mouth What You Say!

The year is almost to an end and I wanted to leave you with this thought:  Once spoken words can not be taken back, so be careful what you say!

I learned this lesson when I was thirteen I spoke some mean words to my mother and after I came to my senses, I apologized profusly. She replied  " Uh huh, but  the thing about that is, that's how you felt at the time". Out of the heart the mouth will speak. (selah) From that day forward I have been mindful of what I say and how I say it, for once spoken they can not be retrieved.

In the heat of anger sometimes you say things you ordinarily would not say; even out of hurt you say things to ensure the recipient feels the pain you are feeling.  As time passes you are back in your happy place and your words are still lingering in the mind of the person you spoke them to, in the mind of the person they rehearsed them to and in the mind of the people who may have heard you.  Those hurt filled, painful words are still lingering out there and you have moved on.  Then you wonder why that person doesn't want to talk to you.  SMH

End the year reconciling relationships you have damaged with your words.  Embrace 2012  being a better your, using tact and being mindful of what you say before you say it.  May you have a happy and prosperous New Year!


Thursday, December 15, 2011

USEFUL Information: Work at Home Scams You Should Avoid

Work-At-Home Scams To Avoid

I know quite a bit of people that are looking for work at home type jobs and all I can say is BE CAREFUL! Do your research.   Forbes has this great article that gives you at least 16 scams to avoid.  If you look at the list and then use some common sense, no matter the variation of the scam if it falls into one of the ones listed, you may be able to weed out the legitimate work at home positions from the scammers and perhaps help a friend out by alerting them on what to look for.  I hope this helps you.

Pat Colucci got an exhilarating phone call in the summer of 2009. The 75-year-old retired salesman of metal fillings, X-ray film and other dental equipment needed some extra cash, and a company called BankCard Empire in Phoenix, Ariz. offered a way: Colucci could run his own credit card processing business from the comfort of his modest home in Plainfield, NJ.
BankCard promised to provide Colucci with credit card swiping machines for sale or lease; the company would also register and build Colucci’s website to market the machines. From that point, Colucci would snare a small cut of each transaction processed. Once he sold a decent number of machines, he could kick back and watch the commissions pour in.
All he needed to get started: a one-time fee of $32,450. The trap was set.
Colucci (who says he doesn’t know how BankCard got his name and phone number) covered the bill with two credit cards---one from Chase Bank, the other from Bank of America. Weeks went by, no word from BankCard. Colucci peppered the company with calls. Crickets. After two months, Colucci knew he had been robbed. Chase Bank initially refunded Colucci’s $9,250, but later rescinded; Bank of America refused to reimburse the $23,200 Colucci had put on its card.
In January 2010 Colucci sued BankCard Empire (for negligence and fraud), as well as Chase Bank and Bank of America (for violating the Truth in Lending Act) in federal district court in New Jersey. Three months later the United States Postal Inspector, assisted by the Tempe, Ariz. police, shut down BankCard. Colucci hasn’t seen a dime. All charges, save for the one citing negligence, have been thrown out; the suit is still pending. As for the fraud-protection policies offered by the banks, they tend only to protect card holders from unauthorized use of their cards---not from transactions willingly performed with a crook disguised as a legitimate operation. “I feel that the banks ripped me off as much as the scammer did,” says Colucci, who lives on Social Security and is now looking for a job. A Chase representative declined to comment; Bank of America did not respond to multiple calls for comment.
Colucci has plenty of unsuspecting company in this tight economy. In 2010 the Federal Trade Commission received 8,192 complaints involving work-at-home-business opportunities, flat with the previous year. The FTC estimates that only one in every 55 of these gigs is legitimate.
Whether it involves stuffing envelopes, processing medical insurance claims or assembling toys, most victims never get paid for their work or ever recoup their startup fees. As for Colucci, not only is he out his thirty-two grand, he also has legal bills to pay. “There is no ability to recover enhanced damages or attorney’s fees in a claim against a credit card company when [you] are defrauded on a work-at-home scam,” says Billy Pinilis, Colucci’s attorney. “This usually makes it impossible for a victim to even get counsel because it makes hiring a lawyer economically infeasible. People are entering into transactions believing that they are protected from fraud, when they are not.”
You might think the chance to make easy money in pajamas would get anyone's hackles up. So how do these schemes endure? Most victims---typically senior citizens, stay-at-home mothers and people with low incomes---are too embarrassed to file a complaint; others get so frustrated they just walk away altogether.
Smell a scam? Vet the offer with your local Better Business Bureau, which maintains a directory of local businesses. Beware: Just because the company's name is listed in the directory doesn't mean it’s a legitimate operation. These businesses change names all the time, masking their dirty track records.
Victims should contact their local or state consumer affairs agency, their state attorney general's office, the advertising manager of the publication that ran the business's employment ads and, if they received anything from the business by mail, the U.S. Postal Inspection Service.
To learn more about work-at-home schemes, also check out the Federal Trade Commission's business-opportunities website and the National Fraud Information Center, run by the National Consumers League.
In the meantime, here are a few nasty work-at-home schemes we’ve identified over the last few years.

E-Commerce Con
Making a few extra bucks doesn’t sound any easier than this: Simply pay an up-front, one-time fee (a few thousand dollars, perhaps) to have someone build and host a functioning website featuring various household goods for sale, from toothpaste to toilet paper; each time someone buys an item, you collect a slice of the transaction. All you need to do is encourage people to shop there—the rest (stocking inventory, shipping the product) is handled for you. Or, more likely, nothing is handled, and the thief offering you the opportunity is long gone with your earnest money before you’ve hocked one tube of Crest.
Letter From Nigeria
Also called the 419 scam (referring to the article of the Nigerian Criminal Code dealing with fraud), this bait-and-switch has recently gained a lot of attention. The ruse takes many forms. One common flavor: An email arrives from a man claiming to be a senior civil servant of Nigeria (or another African country), who writes that he is looking for a reputable foreigner with whom he can deposit up to $60 million for safe-keeping while he deals with some dangerous political strife. In return for providing safe haven in your bank account, the thief promises to give you 30% of the money once—as one email put it—“documentations are concluded over here.” The emails may even come with a (forged) seal of the Nigerian government, just for good measure. Of course, you will be required to cough up a deposit so that you have a stake in the business venture. When your Nigerian friend later claims something has gone awry, he will ask for additional funds to tide him over---never mind that he supposedly has millions of dollars to start with. (Another non-work-at-home twist: The email may claim that you are eligible to receive a hefty inheritance from a wealthy and recently deceased diplomat or businessman. Yet another: You might be promised a handsome fee for distributing a giant stash among various charities. Yes, confirms the Federal Trade Commission: People do fall for this.
Dial-A-Crook
Lonely hearts aren’t the only fans of 1-900 numbers. Scammers use them to push bogus work-at-home gigs: Just call the 1-900 number for “more information.” While you wait on hold, you’ll rack up usurious charges, which the crook splits with the unwitting phone company. Foil the scam and, like a game of Whack-a-Mole, the bad guy simply pops up under a different name, with a different number.
Driver Wanted
This scam, recently advertised on Craigslist, has many variations. In one case, a man asks you to chauffer his wife, who is visiting your area. Easy enough, though the payment terms are a tad convoluted. You are told that you will receive a check (or “money gram”) for, say, $2,500 in the mail. You will deposit the check, then immediately pull out the cash--- $700 to cover your fee and any ancillary expenses, and the rest to be mailed back to the scammer. Your bank probably won’t know for a day or two that you have deposited a fake check.
Check Cashing
Also called "money-mule" schemes. The gist: Scammers recruit U.S. agents--dubbed "financial managers" or "sales managers"--to cash counterfeit checks (or deposit stolen funds), for a small commission, and then wire that money abroad, often to the scammers themselves. By the time the bank realizes the checks are bogus (two to five days later), the money's been sent and the unsuspecting intermediary is left holding the bag.
Medical Billing
Most of these work-from-home schemes promise up to thousands of dollars per week for processing insurance claims for doctors who are too busy to deal with the paperwork themselves. You'll receive startup marketing materials, software, a training session and a "lead" list of local doctors--all for a fee, of course. Too bad that software costs a lot less at Best Buy, your training sessions are postponed indefinitely, your leads are vapor and no one wants your service.
Mystery Shopping
In this scam, an official-sounding entity, such as the Mystery Shopping Club of America, promises assignments to aspiring marketing researchers. How to get paid? Just make anonymous purchases at various stores and evaluate your experience--right after you pay a "registration fee" to look or apply for assignments in its database. Legitimate offers won't require a fee or "certification" to search for companies requesting mystery shoppers. Typical prey: college students.
Pre-Screened List of Jobs
This might be the most heartless one of all. Consumers pay a fee to register with the business to access a pre-screened list of "legitimate" work-at-home job listings. The scammer's ads pop up in the course of a "scam free jobs at home" online search, and they promise a refund to those who fail to land a job. After sending in payment, victims are summarily locked out of their accounts and never see a single job opportunity.

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

The Organized Bride

We have all been frustrated a time or two when a plan just didn't come together as we invisioned.  Our plans included everything running smoothly.  Everyone involved would be more then overjoyed to participate in this event, especially since YOU were planning it.   Hmmmm ..then slowly the plans start unraveling and you are overwhelmed by the planning of it all.  You have checklists for the checklists and everyone seems to be hiding from you and no one is answering your calls.

ORGANIZATION.  This just means your processes by which you plan are effective and organized.  They make sense and they flow.  

Many Brides start out very enthusiastic about planning their wedding, only to be tired, stressed and miserable on their wedding day.  It shouldn't be that wayTIP:  Consult with an Event PLANNER.  Pay the extra to get the advice you need to plan a successul and stress free event.  Don't sweat the small stuff.  If you are NOT a good PLANNER, then Hire One.

Monday, November 21, 2011

Are You Sleeping on Your Dreams?

Are you sleeping on your dreams?  What are you doing daily to attain your goals?  Have you achieved any of the goals you set at the beginning of the year?

Today take the time to evaluate the following: 

1. Yourself.  Are you holding you back?  Have you let some things slip? Are you making excuses? Are you lazy? Are you a time waster?  Have you lost focused?

2Your Support Team.  Do you have the right people around you? Are the people you surround yourself with encouraging or discouraging?  Do you take heed to the advice or wisdom they share with you or do you make excuses?   

Really ask yourself those questions and be truthful.  By doing so, you will learn more about yourself. You will be able to recognize your strengths and weaknesses in some areas and you will be able to move forward towards success.

Make a quality decision to be successful today.  Work on your goals everyday. Start TODAY.
Let's GO!!

Saturday, November 19, 2011

Do You Know Why the Wedding Ring is Worn on the Fourth Finger?

Do you know why the wedding ring is worn on the fourth finger? The Chinese give a beautiful explanation to this. The thumb represents your parents. The index finger represents your siblings. The middle finger represents yourself. The ring finger represents your life partner. The little finger/pinky represents your children. Hold your hands together like the picture. Join your middle fingers back-to-back, and the remaining fingers tip-to-tip. Now, try to separate your thumbs. They will separate because your parents are not destined to live with you forever. Rejoin your thumbs and separate your index fingers. They will separate because your siblings will have their own families and lead their own lives. Rejoin your index fingers and separate your little fingers/pinkies. They will separate because your children will grow up, get married, and settle down. Rejoin your little fingers/pinkies and try to separate your ring finger. They will not be able to separate because your life partner is meant to be with you throughout your entire life, through thick and thin.

Friday, November 18, 2011

Think About This

Who have you helped lately?  How have you helped lately? Who have you encouraged lately?   Has any one encouraged you? If so how did you thank them? What are you thankful for thus far?  What blessings, good fortune, or wonderful event has happened and changed your life?  Do you celebrate only the big events in your life or do you include the small milestones as well?

Find something to be thankful for. Make a conscious decision not to complain today. Go out of your way to help someone...receive help from someone if you are very prideful...Make a positive change today. Be Nice and Positive Today.

Sometimes a kind word to someone or just genuinely listening to someone as they express themselves can make a difference in someones life.  Simple etiquette is not dead, people appreciate it...simple gestures such as a smile; a simple greeting, "How are you today". (Now when greeting someone don't ask if you really are not concerned, instead just say "Hello...Good Afternoon...etc)...I recently helped an elderly woman carry something to her vehicle and I said..."Travel safely"...she replied, "You too"...I walked away thinking how insincere...I am not travelling anywhere....lol 

It's the small things that we say or do that makes a difference in how your sincerity is received.  Make a conscious decision to be nice and considerate to someone...use your manners and be cordial.